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Yuriy Manchik Photography (aka Mr and Mrs Globetrot ) not only turned me down for wedding photos, but sent me emails telling me that he was taught being gay is wrong, called me a crybaby because I said I was upset at how he was treating me. Yuriy Manchik said that he was not a confident photographer (see email below) and  then stopped returning my emails after he found out I am gay. When I asked him if we could still do the portrait session he had already agreed to, saying that maybe he could practice posing us there and that we were capable of our own “posing”. He then stopped responding to my emails despite the fact that he was active on twitter so I thought I’d send him a message there. After a few tweets, he started sending me very rude emails.

He called me a crybaby and told me I was a sixteen year old and that I should “mature-up” because I told them that it felt awful to be treated the way they were treating me. Then Julia Manchik send me an email defending her husband saying he had no choice but to attack me (??)

After agreeing to shoot my portrait in April, we discussed his wedding rates. Then we wrote back and forth about how much he charged for hotels and travel and stuff. I also told him that I DID NOT HAVE A WEDDING DATE CHOSEN YET. We’re in the early stages of planning:

Then I realized that I hadn’t mentioned I was gay by this point so I thought I would mention it, even though I shouldn’t have to. Then he stopped emailing me . I was really annoyed. So I waited 5 days and sent the email again just incase he didn’t get it or something. He responded that he wasn’t a confident photographer and said that I should contact someone else:

So I wrote back asking why he wouldn’t be confident. What does he think happens at gay weddings?

And then he stopped responding again and I was really upset about how he was dealing with this so I decided to get on twitter so that I could get his attention, hopefully to get the courtesy of getting the professional response I deserved.

Of course as soon as I got on twitter he finally wrote back:

You might say that these emails are nice/professional but please keep in mind that we had already agreed to a date and they were suddenly backing out with no explanation other than that I am gay. They won’t even shoot two guys together hanging out for a non wedding session?? I don’t know why he was making such a big deal about the wedding date. I bet it was so he could just say “Ooohhh, Soorrry we  are already booked that day!” ? That’s one reason I didn’t respond to that question. Besides that, I already told him that we hadn’t set a date in the very first email. Speaking of not answering questions, my response to his excuse was to ask whether we could still do a portrait shoot and then we could see if he could practice posing.

At this point I was trying to be optimistic that he wasn’t homophobic and that if it really was that he wasn’t a confident photographer, ready for all situations, that we could test out our compatibility with a shoot together and if he really had such a terrible time “posing” us (which, I have a feeling we could do ourselves) then we could make a decision about the wedding then. Sadly, all that was was a really bad excuse and that’s when I got angrier than I probably should have but they will never know what it’s like to be discriminated against. I noticed that they were pretty active on twitter so I thought since they were so bad at returning emails that they could respond to me quickly on twitter because if they weren’t lying then they wouldn’t need so much time to come up with replies.

Even though they were responding to other people on twitter they were completely ignoring me – my request to have a portrait session, that they already agreed to for April before they knew I was gay. After a few days of sending tweets just asking them to respond, I called them unprofessional for not responding and then Julia sent me a tweet saying Yuriy was taking “good care of me”

So I replied to that on twitter saying that you weren’t “taking good care” of me. He made excuses for why he wouldn’t photograph our wedding, then wouldn’t tell me why he wouldn’t even do a portrait session. Then says it’s wrong for gay people to get married AND they don’t even want to take a regular picture of us? And I’M unprofessional because I am asking them to respond to my emails? I didn’t “bad mouth” them on twitter, after a few days of them not responding, I called them unprofessional for not doing so, which they are. It’s not bad mouthing if it’s just fact. Why would I email them when they didn’t respond to my emails until I called them unprofessional on twitter?

Julia claims that I was trying to make her homophobic. No one can “make you” homophobic.

Then they blocked me from twitter and sent me an email saying I probably wasn’t even getting married and that I was just harassing people over the internet because I wouldn’t meet with them in person (they never offered that?). I just asked them to respond to my emails  and they didn’t! I would have loved to have meet in person and got them a coffee to discuss a portrait session and maybe been their first gay wedding if they were being truthful about just not being comfortable about “posing” us.

They said that they were taught that being gay is wrong. I wish they were also taught that lying and verbally abusing people is wrong.

The last email also said I should be doing better things with my time than trying to get in touch with them and that I was “tweeting garbage”.  Real nice people.

I guess I’m better off not having these two take my photos. I had my friend who is into photography look into their stuff and it looks like they just use these things they bought where they click one button on photoshop to make your photos have an effect. I could download those myself because they are free! And with the money I’d save maybe I’ll just buy the Nikon D700.

Even if you’re not gay, Yuriy Manchik said he was not a confident photographer and that alone is a huge reason  why I wouldn’t choose them as photographers let alone the fact that they are horrible people who can’t be courteous.

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11 responses »

  1. I’m so sorry you had to go through this Ryan. Everyone deserves the same rights. People like this will just make you stronger. Chin up.

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  2. It’s because they are highly religious. HIGHLY religious. Come from a large family and surround themselves with the same type of church goers so they don’t know of another world aside from what they know and don’t care or have any interest in being challenged in any way. You would think after traveling around the world they would’ve learned something. But sadly it was just a gift from God and everything revolves around them and their beliefs. One of the reasons I’m not a fan of them. Sorry about your experience. This is when I usually curse religion and the closed minded people in it.

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    • myexperiencewithmrandmrsglobetrot

      Thank you so much for your support. You’re right, not everyone likes to learn and be challenged and are so conceited that they think they’re always right. I know there’s nothing I can do about it, but I want my friends and family to know about my experience.

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  3. I think you should leave this case alone. People have their own opinions. You are stating they discriminated you… yet you are discriminating them as well on a public website and across the social networking sites, embarrassing them. People come from different cultures and backgrounds just like yourself and you should respect that. In this situation,you’re not making yourself or them look better or worse. No one should be judging each other.

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    • myexperiencewithmrandmrsglobetrot

      Thanks for your opinion. I’m not sure how I’m discriminating against them? I’m just letting people know what happened to me. If they are embarrassed, they shouldn’t have acted that way. They embarrass themselves. You are telling me not to judge others but you’re telling me that I should respect the fact that they are treating other humans like they are lesser people and denying them rights to a service. If you are going to run a business, you have to provide your service to everyone. If there was a photobooth owned by religious people and there was a sign that said “No gays” would that be OK?

      I come from the same “culture and background” as them. I believe in God too, after all, He created me and made me gay.

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  4. You have your views and beliefs and so do they. Why didn’t you find someone else who specializes in posing same sex couples?? Who IS comfortable enough to say “Hey place your hand on this guys ass…” or someone who is not grossed out by two men making out… I am not a photographer but I don’t want to see that stuff or better yet photograph it and then work on editing it. You are so quick to yell “Discrimination!!!!”, to act as a victim, poor me, but did you ever stopped and think and respect their beliefs and ask them if they are comfortable shooting gay wedding??? Be reasonable and not act like an immature little shit who didn’t get what he wanted. Who got rejected because he is gay. Big deal. They declined politely, but you just wanted to get your point across. Shoving your gayness down people’s throats is not a way to go. As you said this is America. There are ton of options. And to be so hateful cause someone said “no” only shows your lack of maturity. Give it a rest and perhaps start your own gay photo business. It appears that it might boom unless it ends up like Sodom and Gomorrah…. You can actually use that as your brand!! But seriously relax dude. And its not fair that you pick and chose what to post btw.

    Oh and also no business “HAVE” to provide service to everyone. At times dealing with certain individuals just not worth the money.

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    • myexperiencewithmrandmrsglobetrot

      Your comment is so illogical that I don’t even know where to begin. I will try to respond to your “points”

      1) “You have your views and beliefs and so do they” – so if everyone has different views and people should just be left alone with these views, why are you commenting on my blog?

      2) “Why didn’t you find someone else who specializes in posing same sex couples?? Who IS comfortable enough to say “Hey place your hand on this guys ass…” or someone who is not grossed out by two men making out…” No where on their site does it say that they don’t accept gay couples, that’s why I sent them an email, they agreed to do portraits for us, we’re not tacky, we wouldn’t be putting hands on asses and weren’t planning on making out. You are showing your ignorance.

      3) “You are so quick to yell “Discrimination!!!!”, to act as a victim, poor me, but did you ever stopped and think and respect their beliefs and ask them if they are comfortable shooting gay wedding?? “ I said that we could still just do the portrait shoot – not a wedding, just us hanging out and they stopped responding. So that means they just won’t take pictures of gay people, we wouldn’t be getting married in those pictures so it’s not against their religion.

      4) “Be reasonable and not act like an immature little shit who didn’t get what he wanted. Who got rejected because he is gay. Big deal. They declined politely, but you just wanted to get your point across. Shoving your gayness down people’s throats is not a way to go. As you said this is America. There are ton of options. And to be so hateful cause someone said “no” only shows your lack of maturity.” I guess you’re an expert on having a lack of maturity. Taking your time to go on someone’s blog who is sharing a bad customer service experience, calling them names etc… They didn’t decline politely. Yuriy Manchik verbally attacked me, just as you seem to be doing. You’re calling me hateful right after calling someone an “immature little shit”. Do you care that you come off as a complete idiot?

      5) ” Give it a rest and perhaps start your own gay photo business. It appears that it might boom unless it ends up like Sodom and Gomorrah…. You can actually use that as your brand!! But seriously relax dude. And its not fair that you pick and chose what to post btw. ” Wow. I bet you thought you were so funny when you wrote that. It’s not fair that I pick and choose what I post? LOL! Maybe you should take your own advice. It’s my blog, right? I don’t have to accept anything I don’t want to, just like Yuriy and Julia don’t have to accept me. It’s so sad that you’ll never realize how stupid you are.

      6)” Oh and also no business “HAVE” to provide service to everyone. At times dealing with certain individuals just not worth the money.” No one has to provide service to everyone, but you can’t discriminate against people just because of their sexual orientation, it’s illegal.

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  5. Yuriy and Julie shot my wedding and it was FABULOUS, they are nothing like the comments on here say they are. They are not religious, i’ve had drinks with him a religious person woudn’t do that. I think you need to stop spreading HATE.

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    • myexperiencewithmrandmrsglobetrot

      Maybe you should verify your information before accusing people of “spreading hate”. He did actually call me names because I am gay. They are extremely religious, but they are just hypocrites which is why they drink.

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  6. You have your views and beliefs and so do they. Why didn’t you find someone else who specializes in posing same sex couples?? Who IS comfortable enough to say “Hey place your hand on this guys ass…” or someone who is not grossed out by two men making out… I am not a photographer but I don’t want to see that stuff or better yet photograph it and then work on editing it. You are so quick to yell “Discrimination!!!!”, to act as a victim, poor me, but did you ever stopped and think and respect their beliefs and ask them if they are comfortable shooting gay wedding??? Be reasonable and not act like an immature little shit who didn’t get what he wanted. Who got rejected because he is gay. Big deal. They declined politely, but you just wanted to get your point across. Shoving your gayness down people’s throats is not a way to go. As you said this is America. There are ton of options. And to be so hateful cause someone said “no” only shows your lack of maturity. Give it a rest and perhaps start your own gay photo business. It appears that it might boom unless it ends up like Sodom and Gomorrah…. You can actually use that as your brand!! But seriously relax dude. And its not fair that you pick and chose what to post btw.

    Oh and also no business “HAVE” to provide service to everyone. At times dealing with certain individuals just not worth the money.

    Quit erasing my post. Don’t just have the ones that baby you on there. You want fair treatment then give everyone a voice to post their opinions. You are being a hypocritical infant for creating a hate BLOG and not allowing people to speak.

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    • myexperiencewithmrandmrsglobetrot

      I didn’t erase your post. I just haven’t been moderating the comments. wordpress makes you moderate. But this is an example of how stupid you people are. I’ve responded to you idiotic statement that you saved on your computer for two weeks and then came back and posted on here. Do you realize that you saved this post for two weeks and then came back to tell me that i’m a baby for not posting your comment? Haha. You’re telling me I shouldn’t get upset that they wouldn’t take my portrait photos and you’re getting upset just because I won’t post your comment. lol. Do you think calling me names is going to accomplish anything? I won’t be posting further comments like this because they’re too easy to respond to, you religious people aren’t very smart and it’s a waste of my time. Goodbye.

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