Yuriy Manchik Photography (aka Mr and Mrs Globetrot ) not only turned me down for wedding photos, but sent me emails telling me that he was taught being gay is wrong, called me a crybaby because I said I was upset at how he was treating me. Yuriy Manchik said that he was not a confident photographer (see email below) and then stopped returning my emails after he found out I am gay. When I asked him if we could still do the portrait session he had already agreed to, saying that maybe he could practice posing us there and that we were capable of our own “posing”. He then stopped responding to my emails despite the fact that he was active on twitter so I thought I’d send him a message there. After a few tweets, he started sending me very rude emails.
He called me a crybaby and told me I was a sixteen year old and that I should “mature-up” because I told them that it felt awful to be treated the way they were treating me. Then Julia Manchik send me an email defending her husband saying he had no choice but to attack me (??)
After agreeing to shoot my portrait in April, we discussed his wedding rates. Then we wrote back and forth about how much he charged for hotels and travel and stuff. I also told him that I DID NOT HAVE A WEDDING DATE CHOSEN YET. We’re in the early stages of planning:
Then I realized that I hadn’t mentioned I was gay by this point so I thought I would mention it, even though I shouldn’t have to. Then he stopped emailing me . I was really annoyed. So I waited 5 days and sent the email again just incase he didn’t get it or something. He responded that he wasn’t a confident photographer and said that I should contact someone else:
So I wrote back asking why he wouldn’t be confident. What does he think happens at gay weddings?
And then he stopped responding again and I was really upset about how he was dealing with this so I decided to get on twitter so that I could get his attention, hopefully to get the courtesy of getting the professional response I deserved.
Of course as soon as I got on twitter he finally wrote back:
You might say that these emails are nice/professional but please keep in mind that we had already agreed to a date and they were suddenly backing out with no explanation other than that I am gay. They won’t even shoot two guys together hanging out for a non wedding session?? I don’t know why he was making such a big deal about the wedding date. I bet it was so he could just say “Ooohhh, Soorrry we are already booked that day!” ? That’s one reason I didn’t respond to that question. Besides that, I already told him that we hadn’t set a date in the very first email. Speaking of not answering questions, my response to his excuse was to ask whether we could still do a portrait shoot and then we could see if he could practice posing.
At this point I was trying to be optimistic that he wasn’t homophobic and that if it really was that he wasn’t a confident photographer, ready for all situations, that we could test out our compatibility with a shoot together and if he really had such a terrible time “posing” us (which, I have a feeling we could do ourselves) then we could make a decision about the wedding then. Sadly, all that was was a really bad excuse and that’s when I got angrier than I probably should have but they will never know what it’s like to be discriminated against. I noticed that they were pretty active on twitter so I thought since they were so bad at returning emails that they could respond to me quickly on twitter because if they weren’t lying then they wouldn’t need so much time to come up with replies.
Even though they were responding to other people on twitter they were completely ignoring me – my request to have a portrait session, that they already agreed to for April before they knew I was gay. After a few days of sending tweets just asking them to respond, I called them unprofessional for not responding and then Julia sent me a tweet saying Yuriy was taking “good care of me”
So I replied to that on twitter saying that you weren’t “taking good care” of me. He made excuses for why he wouldn’t photograph our wedding, then wouldn’t tell me why he wouldn’t even do a portrait session. Then says it’s wrong for gay people to get married AND they don’t even want to take a regular picture of us? And I’M unprofessional because I am asking them to respond to my emails? I didn’t “bad mouth” them on twitter, after a few days of them not responding, I called them unprofessional for not doing so, which they are. It’s not bad mouthing if it’s just fact. Why would I email them when they didn’t respond to my emails until I called them unprofessional on twitter?
Julia claims that I was trying to make her homophobic. No one can “make you” homophobic.
Then they blocked me from twitter and sent me an email saying I probably wasn’t even getting married and that I was just harassing people over the internet because I wouldn’t meet with them in person (they never offered that?). I just asked them to respond to my emails and they didn’t! I would have loved to have meet in person and got them a coffee to discuss a portrait session and maybe been their first gay wedding if they were being truthful about just not being comfortable about “posing” us.
They said that they were taught that being gay is wrong. I wish they were also taught that lying and verbally abusing people is wrong.
The last email also said I should be doing better things with my time than trying to get in touch with them and that I was “tweeting garbage”. Real nice people.
I guess I’m better off not having these two take my photos. I had my friend who is into photography look into their stuff and it looks like they just use these things they bought where they click one button on photoshop to make your photos have an effect. I could download those myself because they are free! And with the money I’d save maybe I’ll just buy the Nikon D700.
Even if you’re not gay, Yuriy Manchik said he was not a confident photographer and that alone is a huge reason why I wouldn’t choose them as photographers let alone the fact that they are horrible people who can’t be courteous.